Greetings, SuperFriends!
Today we are joined by Derek Rydall, an american screenwriter and author. Derek has worked as an actor, a screenwriter, a screenplay consultant, and has written a few books. He also hosts a podcast called Emergence. But actually, he joins us today to talk about his latest book – Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change.It's a book about enacting change in your life and in yourself, and figuring out how to re-engage with an ancient principle for living a better life.

During this episode, we talk about the Law of Emergence and some of the misconceptions about self help and personal growth, we learn Derek’s story of his own emergence, and if you stick around to the end, you’ll even get a free copy of Derek’s book! I hope you guys really enjoy the episode and get a hefty dose of inspiration and motivation from it!

This episode is brought to you by the online course Creating a Meaningful Life, a course which teaches you how to design the life of your dreams. Click the link above to get a special discount for listeners of this podcast only.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The journey that took Derek Rydall from acting to where he is today
• What took Derek off of his path of becoming a successful actor?
• The ways in which self improvement led Derek Rydall down and disappointed him
• The story of how drug addiction nearly took Derek’s life
• A terrifying near-death experience that turned everything around in an instant
• Who was the “real” person behind everything, and what did it mean for Derek to discover him?
• What happened when Derek tried to become a monk?
• The ways in which Derek Rydall disagrees with traditional “self improvement”
• What is “the law of mind,” how does it work, and how is it different from the law of attraction?
• The more natural, healthy way to grow and develop, as discovered by Derek
• The origins of the word “human,” and why it's so interesting
• A discussion of frequencies, energetics, and quantum mechanics
• What is “the law of emergence” and what are the 7 steps to radical life change?
• The “perennial teaching” that connects all of the major religions and schools of thought
• How can you develop a vision and discover what your purpose and passion are?
• What is a “quantum plan,” and how do you develop one in your life?
• A discussion of character building and why it's important
• What stands in the way when most people try to make changes or improvements in their lives?
• Where to get a copy of Derek's book for free
• What is the 1 major takeaway from this episode that Derek Rydall wants you to remember

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

• Derek's promotional website where you can get the book for free
• The Law of Emergence website
• Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change (Derek's book)
• Derek's podcast, Emergence

Favorite Quotes from Derek Rydall:

Transcript:

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All right, here we go with the show. Greetings, SuperFriends, and welcome to today's show. You guys today, we are joined by Derek. Rydall an American screenwriter and author turned actor, turned screenwriter, turned screenplay consultant.

Who's written a bunch of books and speaks all over the world. He's a pretty busy, busy guy. As you can hear, he also runs a podcast called the best year of your life. But actually, he joins us today to talk about his latest book, which is called immersions seven steps for radical life change with title like that, you know exactly why we had to have them on the show.

And it's basically a book about an acting change in your life and in yourself and figuring out how to re-engage with ancient principles to live a better life. Now, Derek has a little bit of a different approach in a different mindset. Around personal growth and around self-help. And I know you guys every week get exposed to my be more, be better, be this, be that grow change every day, wake up better than you went to sleep.

I wanted to give you guys a different perspective, which is a very interesting one around nurturing and honoring yourself. And I think during this episode, Derek definitely shares that alternate and no less wise perspective. So we talk about the law of emergence and some of the misconceptions. Around self-help and personal growth and why they might be flawed.

We learned about Derek's story of his own emergence, a very interesting near-death experience. And if you stick around to the end, you will also get a free copy of Derek's book, which was very generous of him to offer. So I hope you guys really enjoy the episode and get a hefty dose. Of inspiration and motivation from it.

And if you do, of course, leave us a review and drop us a tweet, send us an email, anything like that, you know, definitely brightens our day gives us a little inspiration and motivation. So without any further ado, let me present to you guys. Mr Derek. Rydall.

Mr. Derek. Ryedale welcome to the show, my friend or so glad to have you here today. 

Derek Rydall: Thank you. It's my honor. And pleasure to be here truly. 

Jonathan Levi: Absolutely. Absolutely. So Derek, I tried to do a little bit of research, prepare myself, get ready for this interview. And I realized that you actually started out in acting and screenwriting and like my good friend, Dr. Anthony Metivier with screenplay consulting. 

So I was wondering if you could tell us a bit about the journey that brought you from there towards writing a book on kind of personal growth and spirituality. 

Derek Rydall: Sure we don't have to get into my adult film career. Right. 

Jonathan Levi: We can save that. We can just attach the YouTube video later in the blog post.

Derek Rydall: Okay. Okay. Cool. Yeah, I it's definitely been quite a journey. I mean, I am what I believe can be honestly defined as a Renaissance man. They actually do exist. It's both a blessing and a curse. My mom told me when I was young, I could do anything I put my mind to and she was right. And I sometimes hate her for having told me that.

So yeah, I. Done a lot of things. I've lived many incarnations and I've always been on a journey. I've always been on a quest. I always knew that there was a bigger something going on in the universe and that there was something more to us than meets the eye, but I didn't have the language for it. You know, as a kid, I was.

Always interested in my friends, different religions, and I'd go, you know, have Passover with my friend and I'd ask them the different, you know, understand his religion. I go and sit with my Buddhist friends and my Christian friends. And I just, I was always on a search, but I didn't really have the family or the environment to support any kind of deeper thinking.

And I've also always been very, very creative in wanting to tell a story. And ultimately that, uh, led me to become an actor. And I was a successful actor and I did film and TV and theater and commercials and was an up-and-coming actor. And in fact, was represented by the same manager who had represented Tom Cruise.

And I was on track to be kind of the one, some, one of the new sort of brat pack or, you know, kind of factors. And then I had a very powerful, spiritual opening. My life started to really go South. You know, I was. On a good track on one hand professionally, but. Things started just not work anymore. And I would do everything that was right.

And I would get down to the wire and it would be against me and one other person, and I wouldn't get the job, but then the director would say you were the best. And in fact, we changed the script because of how you did it, but we have to go with this person for this reason or that, or, you know, my former roommate or, you know, he's a celebrity, he's a star.

You're not, you know, there's always a reason. And my life just started to feel like it was unwinding. And I endeavored to do all these personal growth things. You know, self-improvement therapy, self-improvement strategies, success, strategies, all of this. And the more I did it, the only thing I improved after about a decade of self-improvement was I got very improved in my ability to articulate why my life was so screwed up.

I became very eloquent at showing and describing why things weren't working, but I was more frustrated. I felt more inadequate and the pain actually drove me to drink to start to become addicted to drugs and alcohol, and then to almost die of an overdose. Wow. And I remember lying in the emergency room with the IB snaking out of my arm and just coming to consciousness and the doctor leaning over and whispering.

You're lucky to be alive. And I remember in that moment feeling like that, wasn't good news. Like, darn I didn't succeed. You know, I'm still here and it was lying in that bed going, how did all my self-improvement get me here? Something was missing with this picture. And, but it wasn't enough to crack me open.

You know, I figured I must have to work harder or dig deeper or reduce from my efforts. And so I did, and I ended up getting a little more progress and success and I was doing a film in Jamaica. And I got caught in this coral reef. I went out, everything started going sideways on the film and they were firing the director, firing the actors.

And I went off and went diving in a reef alone, my first mistake and I prayed to get lost from everything. And above my second mistake and very quickly I got lost. I got trapped and nobody knew I was out there. And I was trapped in a pocket of fire, coral, and spiked coral that were inches from my throat and my chest, and my neck.

And I couldn't swim down. I couldn't look up, I couldn't move or I would have been punctured by this coral. And then nobody knew I was there. It, this ordeal lasted for a long time as I was having to swim with the tips of my fingers to stay at that water level. Breathe in short staccato breaths so that I wouldn't be punctured and eventually reached a point where I knew nobody was coming for me and I was never going to get out.

And I knew I was going to drown. And it's hard to understand if you haven't experienced it, but it wasn't like, I hope I don't drown. You know, it was, this is the end. It was such a sense of finality. And all that was left was to surrender. And so I did I let go. I was exhausted. I was done. And in that moment of total unconditional surrender, you know, I'd already tried the bargaining, Hey, you know, God universe, if there's anything out there, I promise to go to church on Sunday.

If you get me out of this and that wasn't working, the universe was not making any deals. And all I could do is let go. And in that instance, some, there was like a flash. And something's cracked or snapped in me or cracked open in me. And I saw this guy that I've been trying to fix and improve for all these years was a fictional character and amalgamation of parental fantasies and peer pressure and societal conditioning and nothing I ever did was going to make him better.

It was fiction. It was just like, you know, adding more paint to a canvas, but it wasn't real. But behind that, there was a real me. And he had never been hurt or damaged. And so he didn't need to be fixed. He was already complete, so we couldn't be improved upon and I didn't have the language for it. Then it was a flash.

It was like Humpty Dumpty fell off the wall. And when he cracked open, something came out of his shell, this light and this awareness. And at the same moment, I don't know if a wave came along or the water level just Rose, or I literally walked on water, but in the next moment I was popped out of the reef, standing on a coral.

Placed that the only place they didn't have fire coral looking down into the hole, I'd been trapped for this whole ordeal. And the exit was just inches from me the whole time, but I couldn't see it. And I looked at this whole maze of coral and it was like, it was like a metaphor for my life. I'd been swimming through this maze, following all of these brightly colored things.

And I was trapped and I was drowning and I was gasping for air. And I realized that was a metaphor for my whole life. And ultimately for many, many lives that I came to meet and teach. But in that moment of surrender, I popped out of this identity and out of this framework and I saw something much different and much bigger and everything had this luminosity to it.

And it was so radical of a shift that I pulled out of. Acting I pulled out of everything. I did writing acting, and I was going to become a monk. And, uh, I tried to become a monk after about a less than a week in a monastery. I was fasting and silent and I freaked out so badly that I broke into the Monk's kitchen in the middle of the night and stole food out of the refrigerator.

But so the monks kindly suggested maybe the monastic life wasn't for me. So I ended up closer to myself in my apartment, and I went on this several years journey. Of understanding that insight that I had, which we'll talk more about today, but I had to recalibrate myself around this new awareness of how life really works, how we're really meant to grow and unfold.

And it's not what we've been taught. And it's why so many people suffer and struggle when they try to attract and achieve and strive that, you know, we'll definitely unpack it more, but I found really that. How we're really designed to grow, which everything in nature grows this way. We've been doing it the opposite for most of the cases.

Sometimes we accidentally align, but most of the time we're doing it where we're paddling up the stream instead of going with the, the right flow of how we're meant to grow. 

Jonathan Levi: Yeah. Wow. So tell me a little bit about that dirt. Cause I took from your website that. You're actually against a lot of this idea of self-help and self-improvement so unpack that for me a little bit and tell me why that is.

I mean, what is the proper way that we're supposed to be growing versus how we're actually doing it? 

Derek Rydall: Absolutely. And I want to just, I'll say one little thing. It's not that I'm against it. I'm not really against anything. When you're against something, you actually create resistance and you end up.

Creating the very thing you're against. So that's why mother Teresa said, when they kept asking her to join antiwar rallies, she said, no, I'm not going to do that. But if you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there. Wow. So, you know, the old saying whatever you resist, persists, whatever you fight you fuel. So I'm not against self-improvement in the ways we know it.

There's a lot of good tools and strategies in there, but I discovered that there's a different way. And what I discovered is. Just as the Oak tree or any tree is already in the seed. It's already in the acorn, the acorn doesn't go out and attract an Oak. It doesn't struggle to achieve an Oak. It doesn't have to make itself worthy to be an Oak when the acorn yields to the soil and the conditions in the soil match the pattern already in the seed.

That pattern naturally emerges. And this is how all of nature operates nature. And ultimately we understand this from quantum physics. Life is not attraction. Life is not interaction. Life is we live in an emergent universe and so nature is emergent. When the conditions come together and match the seed, that potential that's already there emerges.

So I realized.This is a fundamental principle of how all of life unfolds. And I saw that most of my efforts to achieve and attract and make stuff happen were coming from a premise and ultimately a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, energetic condition that I was broken, that something was missing.

Something was lacking. I wasn't enough. I didn't have enough. Now I'm going to do all this stuff to be enough and get enough. And first of all, besides the fact that that premise is fundamentally untrue, it's actually opposite of what's true. Just like everything is already in the seed for it to become the tree.

Likewise, everything is already in us. And by the way, it's not just one Oak tree that's in that acorn it's entire groves of Oak trees. Think about it out of that one seed, an Oak emerges, it releases more acorns, more Oaks. It's literally infinite. Within that one seed is an entire universe of Oak trees. So the same is true for] us.

So I realized this, that even if, when you are coming from that place, because the law of mind is always operating on what you actually believe, not what you are necessarily doing, but where you're coming from. And so you're trying to attract and achieve all this stuff. And even if you. Through sheer will manifest a bigger paycheck.

You often just find yourself at a high. Broke at a higher income bracket, right? Or you manifest a new host and you find yourself less at home, or you manifest a new relationship and you ended up in the same fights or you manifest a new job and you end up with the same jerky boss, just wearing a different mask.

You know, and I remember a woman who used all this attraction and achievement stuff to cry it out of her house and moved to a new house in the Midwest because she didn't want to live in earthquake country. And she carried all that fear and resistance around that. And to her new house that she manifested and then that house got taken out by a tornado.

So, uh, and I see this happen over and over and over again, you know, I even jokingly say, you know, if you look at the timeline of when all of the law of attraction stuff happened and there was millions of people suddenly practicing to manifest bigger houses, better jobs and more money. And right on the tail of that, we had the biggest job housing and financial collapse in 80 years.

Now, is that an accident? Is that a coincidence? I don't know, but it's certainly interesting considering that you suddenly had millions and millions of people trying to attract things from consciousness, from a mindset often that it wasn't there, that there was a lack that there was a limitation. So the law.

Of mine. That's always operating on our belief, magnifies our beliefs, whatever it is, if you believe, you know, the old saying, if you believe you can, or you believe you can't you're right. Or as, you know, one great. Master teacher, uh, one of our great profits or whatever your religious beliefs are. Jesus said it is done unto you as you believe.

So this, that wasn't like a metaphysical trick to try to attract things. It was a mystical truth that the light we don't experience life directly. We experienced life through the filter of our perceptions and beliefs that would totally create our experience. So this is what I really came to understand.

I was like, wow, this is all. Backwards, no wonder I was almost killing myself and people are struggling so much. And even when they manifest stuff through struggle and achievement and attraction, They have a very hard time holding on to it, or it just creates more problems. Like the guy who manifested a Mercedes that I knew, and a few weeks later it was in the shop and he was now trying to pray himself out of the thing.

He had manifested in his life because he had sort of attracted a Mercedes, but he had not embodied Mercedes. Consciousness. So this is what I became to understand that it's already in me, that this seed of infinite potential is already planted within us. And there's clues all around us to what it is. And when we start to come into harmony with it, when we create the conditions in our life that are in integrity with our soul or our true purpose or our true potential, it begins to naturally emerge and unfold.

And I went from being broke. And broken really. I was suicidal and living in a one-room apartment and living off of 19 cents boxes of macaroni and cheese to ultimately million-dollar homes in world travel in a global transformational business. And it just all began. All the things I've been struggling for, began to unfold.

Now it's not that there's not challenge. We can talk more about that. There's plenty of challenge, but there's a natural way that we're meant to grow and unfold. And this is what I discovered and began to share with the world. 

Jonathan Levi: So break it down for us. What is this natural way of growing and developing?

Derek Rydall: Again? The idea is that there's a couple of fundamental premises. The first one is that life is inside out, not outside in from the emergence premise. Whatever's missing is what you're not giving because you have it already within you and whatever you're waiting for. You're actually waiting with it and often weighing it down.

So we want to begin to realize, in fact, the word human comes from a Sanskrit term, man. That means the dispenser of divine gifts. So our actual nature is that we're not here to get anything except for feedback and reflection. You know, the world's like a big mirror that shows us where we are in our mindset, our consciousness, but we're not here to get anything.

We're here to give something we're here to share or shine or express or download. Right. Absolutely. So we have to get in touch with, well, what is that thing? We're here to be, and become and give and download. And then we have to begin to make ourselves bring our life. Really most of our lives have been designed by default, meaning, you know, we've be designed to live based on self-preservation protection.

We don't want to get hurt. We don't want to lose something. It's been designed by default and we want to create a life by design. That's intentional. And that is in integrity with the emerging power and possibility our own unique, super human capacities. We want to design a life that's now in integrity with that, right.

Because right now the life, most people have, it's designed to keep them where they are not to get them where they want to go. Right. 

Jonathan Levi: I always like to tell people, you know, you have a unique gift. I think I, I once heard it from Tony. Robbins is like, you have a unique gift that no one else can give. And the sooner you figure out what that is, the sooner you're going to feel at home on this planet and find your purpose.

Derek Rydall: Absolutely. When I teach people purpose, work, people think a purpose is something you make up. No, it's what you're made of. It's like the acorn doesn't make up the Oak it's made of Oak. You're made of. Whether you call it divine stuff, universal stuff, superhuman stuff. You're made of a perfect pattern and just such perfect intelligence.

And literally, you're a fully funded, fully franchised expression of the universe that brought everything you need. In fact, You know, they did a study on a tree, they took a tree, put it in like a tub with dirt. They measured the volume of the dirt and they did all the, you know, they watered weeded, feeded said it and it grew.

And then they measured the volume of the dirt again and realized that the tree didn't take anything from the dirt. Right. And they're like, where did it come from? Yep. Literally, it's in the quantum field. And that's like now quantum physics is catching up to these principles where they're saying we live in a quantum field where everything is already there.

And w through observation, the observer effect, you collapsed this infinite potential into a particle, into an experience and it manifests in your life, but it's already here. The Oak is there in the field, the BA corn, your destiny of greatness and abundance and wealth and power. It's already here as a frequency.

That is as real and as broadcasting as music. In fact, I'll just one little quick metaphor that I love. Cause we can understand this right where we are right now. Our favorite music is broadcasting on some station. It's right here in our field. It's literally, we're being bombarded by broadcasts, but it's not manifest, but it's broadcasting.

We can understand that. And when we tune the dial of our radio, so that the frequency of our dial matches the frequency of that station. That music becomes manifest. In other words, it's a play on words. We have a manifestation and that music wasn't in the distance. We didn't have to run down the street to catch it.

It wasn't in the future. We'd have to sit around and wait for it to show up on our receiver. It was already playing, but it wasn't a part of our experience until our frequency came into alignment with the frequency where the music was playing. Well, the same is true for everything in life. Everything is already broadcasting and this is what the great masters, whether it's Jesus or Buddha or Krishna.

So, when they talked about this thing is already here, you know, heaven is at hand. Nirvana is already within you. The Dow is everywhere, you know, whatever the language and the idioms and cultural expressions, but it's the same truth. It's already broadcasting it's already here. We have to come into alignment or integrity with it.

And when we do that, it starts to manifest manifestation. Doesn't mean making something happen that isn't happening. It means making something visible and tangible. That's already broadcasting in terms of a frequency. And so it becomes manifest in our life. And the great news about this. Is that it doesn't matter.

What's going on in the world where you were planted, what side of the tracks what's conditions you're facing. None of that. And I really want people to understand this. None of that has any power to determine your potential at best. It's creating a condition for you to get stronger, you know, to develop your own superhuman, superpowers, like the spider, that bites Spiderman, or the Batman.

You know, radioactive material that the whole David banner, Bruce banner falls into, whatever you're, those negative conditions are creating the condition for you to activate and awaken to your deeper powers, but then never ever have any power to stop you or to diminish you because you carry your capacity to create the right conditions with you.

A seed is indigenous meaning it's determined by its external conditions. Whether it thrives, we are indogenous. Which means we are selfie full jet. We can bring our own light, no matter how many clouds are out, we can activate the soil of our soul. We can feed it and water it and weed, our mind and our heart.

And we can create the conditions in our life that are congruent with that destiny of greatness within us, no matter where we are or what's going on and prove that we truly are unstoppable. And then we become the solution, the answer. In those situations rather than waiting for it to come to us. Isn't that awesome.

Jonathan Levi: So I assume that's, what's described by the title of your book, the law of emergence. I wanted to ask, what is the subtitle about the seven steps to radically changing your 

Derek Rydall: life? Yeah, absolutely. So the book is called emergence seven steps for radical life change. And the principle is the law of emergence.

And I also have a podcast by the same name called emergence, that where I break down these principles as well in a lot of different areas of people's lives. But the basic seven steps is a framework. It's like a template so that you can take this law of emergence and actually design a life. And make it real for you.

It's basically the steps of how to bring your life into integrity with who you really are, why you're really alive. And what's really the potential within you. That's what those seven steps do. And we can touch. I mean, obviously it's a lot to try and I cover all of them, but we can certainly touch upon them briefly if you'd like.

Yeah. I'd love that. So, There's a few very key things here that this framework can be used. This is universal principles. So like this isn't something I made up. This isn't just some clever idea. Derek cooked up in his basement. You know, this is actually based on two decades of research and studying and all the great literature, success, literature, spiritual, religious, philosophical, metaphysical, you know, all of it across the whole spectrum.

And discerning and discovering what's called the perennial teaching, which is what's the truth principles that are across the board. If you peel away the dogma, the doctrine, the cultural idioms of all the great religions and great philosophies you begin to discover. There are fundamental principles that.

Everybody's talking about, it's just, we haven't understood it or seen it cause they're coming through all of these clothing that was designed for the people of those times to understand. And we've often misinterpreted along the way, but there's fundamental principles. So the first one stage one which you must begin with is vision.

You have to know what is the seed. If you don't know what the seed is, you can't know how to cultivate the soil for it's or growth. Right? Right. Or as the Proverbs, it says where there is no vision. The people perish. It doesn't say where there is no vision. People have a bad day where there was no vision.

They don't lose those extra three pounds. You know, where there was no vision. They don't make six figures this year. Now it says where there is no vision. The people perish. And the gospel of Thomas says, if you bring forth, what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth, what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.

So when we don't live our vision and tap into our vision and access and activate that power grid of our own, being that energy starts to wreak havoc in our life. And it creates most of the problems we struggle with. But then we try to solve the problem externally or extrinsically. Like, you know, it's like a tree.

The problem is in the roots, but it shows up in the branch. You know, if you think of all the branches of the tree, like your health, your wealth, your work, your relationships, your emotions, and then you go and try to just solve that emotional issue or that financial issue. And you don't understand the problem is in the trunk or in the roots, meaning you're not rooted.

In who and what you really are and why you're alive. And so that energy of who you are is stagnant and it blocks the flow. And then it shows up as breakdown and challenges and crises, all of which is trying to bring you back. So this first step is you got to discover what you're really here for, what your life is really about.

What's trying to emerge in your life. And in the book and in my work, I walk you step-by-step through how to read the signs and how to discover what that is. I'll just tell you one little clue. Your deepest heart's desire is a sign, not on what's outside of you that you have to go get, but what's inside of you trying to get out.

Desire comes from a root. That means of the sire or of the father of the creative principle. And it's telling you what is already true about you. Now you may be seeing it through filters, societal ideas of what you should or shouldn't be, but there's a fundamental impulse behind that desire. That's telling you, this is who you already are.

This is what you already have. So that's a very powerful way beginning. Entry point into discovering what it is that is trying to emerge in your life. What is that seed of potential? So step one, got to have a vision. If you don't know where you're going, every road will take you there. You're just going to be lost.

Right? Step two, you, now that you know what the seed is, which is, you know, what the vision is your best guess. Anyway, you have to create and cultivate the congruent conditions. So this is about beginning to cultivate the mindset, the heart set. You know, the way you think and feel walk and talk, and ultimately the people, places, things, and activities that you begin to surround yourself with.

So you have to consciously redesign your life around to make it congratulate. So if somebody was to look at your life and listen to your conversations, they would. Start to get a clue like, wow, like a for example, let's say your vision is abundance and success and then go, wow. This person must really be abundant or successful, or definitely on the road to that.

If they were to listen to your conversations and the kind of people you hang out with and the kind of things you read, and it's an eat and do and walk and talk, they would start to see, wow, this person is really about something, but if we're honest, We say, we have a vision of abundance, you know, we have, we're affirming it.

We have vision boards, we have a plan, whatever, but then we walk around and we have conversations either inside ourselves or with other people about how hard the economy is, how bad things are that there's not enough work to go around, or we want a new partner, you know, a beautiful new relationship. But then we talk about how there's not enough good men to go around or not enough good women to go around.

Well, that's inconsistent. That's out of integrity. It's like this, the metaphysical saying you can't make a demand on life that exceeds your belief about it, you know, or again, to use a biblical saying, and these, by the way, none of this is ever religious. This is just principle. If you you're serving two masters.

And you become a house that is divided in a house that is divided, cannot stand. It has no structural integrity when you're like saying I want a life of wealth and success and abundance and power and health, but your mental, emotional, physical reality that you've designed and are living in every day, doesn't match that.

You are out of integrity and you cannot create that in your life. It's like the radio analogy you want to get on to station. Krich. K R I C H. But everything you're doing is tuning into KLACKKLAC. And you're wondering why all you hear is the blues and you want to tune into rock and roll or whatever your musical taste is.

So that's, what's happening. You're tuning out of the frequency of what you say you want, based on the conversations you have, the, the environment you create, the people you interact with, et cetera. So we have to consciously and intentionally design that that's step two, step three, then it's we have to put it all together into what I call a quantum plan, which is.

Designing now, you know, you, you got, again, you want to live on purpose, not on accident. Most people don't even ever get clear on why they're here. Even less. People actually design a way of life. That starts to be congruent with that. And even fewer people actually write it down, make it real, make it a plan, a vision without a plan is a fantasy.

Right. You know, a plan without putting it on your calendar is wishful thinking and we have to have a backbone, not a wishbone. And so we have to be willing to do the sometimes very difficult work for a lot of people to actually make this real now. So if you really want to develop a mindset that's congruent and an inner feeling tone that matches the life you want to live so that you start to feel like you're already living it.

You have to have a practice. You have to have a daily practice that is not subject to the whims of your emotions. You know, it's not like, Oh, I don't feel like it today. Well, that's, that's actually a cognitive in a disorder called emotional reasoning. So we have to live our life based on vision, not based on emotional reasoning, not based on the tides and tempests and whims of whatever's going on in our life.

That's what you look at. Anybody that's truly achieved something great. They've developed the discipline to do what they do. I need to do to do the right things, even when they don't feel like it, especially when they don't feel like it, because that's how you build character, right? And character determines destiny, not your conditions.

Your conditions are just a starting point, not even karma or astrology or any of that. Ologies none of that determines your destiny. They just determined starting points, your habits, really your focus and commitment. Determines your habits, your habits, determine your character. And your character determines your destiny.

So we have to build these habits. And so they tell they become subjective. No one way to do that is to create a real practice. That's part one, we have to have a practice so that we are. Inoculating ourselves from the viruses of the human thinking, which is filled with so much limitation and fear and separation, so that we're creating like a UN an immunization against that through our daily practice of knowing what's true tapping into who we are, building that inner stamina and resilience mentally, emotionally, vibrationally, spiritually, whatever works for you.

Then we have to have a real plan in terms of the outer activities. If you say you want to write a book. You should be writing every day. You know, a writer writes a painter paints, a teacher teaches a singer, sings. You, if you say to me, well, I don't know where to sing on how many gigs put a concert on for your cat.

Right? I mean, you know, I'm speaking now and I speak all over the place now, but there was a time when nobody was knocking on my door, but I was literally, I remember it was a joke. We'd be on a road trip and my wife would wake up and look over at me and I'd be giving a talk. And I didn't realize I was doing it eventually.

I didn't even know I was doing it. She just looked over and I'm just like gesticulating. And I'm like, you know, my mouse moving and I'm not saying it out loud, but I'm actually like speaking to an audience, you know? So I just started doing it. You know, I know Brendan Burchard, who many of you probably know, he used to just walk around in his underwear, just given talks to nobody, you know?

And now he gets talks to everybody. So you got to start where you are and begin to do it. Yeah. I remember my kids when they were younger and they wanted, it's like, I'm going to grow up. I'm going to be a entrepreneur. I'm going to be a millionaire. I'm like, what are you gonna do about it today? You know, it's like, well, I need some money to go to the mall.

No, what are you going to do about it today? It's like, go start a lemonade stand and practice. And I remember one kid did that and then he franchises, lemonade stand. He literally got other kids around the neighborhood to do it. And I didn't invest in that kid. Right. So we got to build a life that is surrounded by the people, places, things, and activities.

And inner life and inner practice. That is where we want to be and want to go, not based on where we've been or even where we are. So definitely that's the quantum plan. So those first three stages are the foundation, right? And we don't have to go into too much detail about the rest, except the rest is where, what, even once you do that, there is a few very important things that stop people, that block people that send them off the rails.

And even when you have the vision and you have the congruence and you have the plan and you're living it, the fourth stage is that whatever's missing is what you're not giving. And we touched on this, but just understanding that stage, it changed my life forever. And it's really, it's the fundamental teaching of all the great teachings.

And that is that you have everything within you. Like I said before the world can't give you anything in the world. Can't take it away. You literally, when you walk into a room, the only thing you can make is what you bring. And likewise, when you walk into a relationship, the only thing you can make is what you bring when it comes to relationships.

Two halves do not make a whole, you know, H A L V E S two halves, H A L V E S. That's. Now we're talking because you bring to the relationship, what you want to experience in it. And again, we could do a whole day talking about this alone, but. But this is critical. This is everything. If you get this and realize that life is happening through you and from you, that you're not on your way to a better life, that you're not on your way to heaven or to abundance or to whatever that you're coming from it.

It's like, you know, the Sunbeam is not on its way to the sun. It's literally coming from the sun. It's an expression of the sun. You are an expression of abundance, of life, of love, of power of genius. You're not on your way to it. You are expressing, and it's like knocking on the door of your mind and heart and saying, let me out.

And so we have to let it out. You know, like the poem, Robert Browning called the imprisoned splendor. We had to release it. Stage five is all about action. And the key here is that we've learned that you take as much action to get stuff, to make stuff happen. And in here I show you that no, you use action to make something welcome.

You use action as sort of a moving affirmation so that you bring your physical life into harmony with what's true about you even before it shows up. So you're not trying to do a bunch of stuff to try to manipulate and make that happen. You're doing stuff to live into the vision of what's true about you.

And like I said before, you're singing because that's what you are, you're writing because you're a writer you're, you're doing, you're living into it. You're not trying to make it happen. You're using action as another critical piece to tune into that station to become, as Gandhi said, the change you want to see in the world and then stage six, and this was another one of the biggest revelations and breakthroughs.

It's one of the most requested. Pieces of work around the world when I talk or teach is embrace what appears broken. And this is based on the understanding that there's nothing about you that's broken or missing, that everything you think is bad or wrong about you, that you've been living your life, trying to deny, ignore, avoid repress, reject, fix change, pray over a firm over achieve over.

None of those things are bad or wrong. The neediness, the greediness, the selfishness, the sadness, the grief, the depression, the anger, all of those are misunderstood aspects of you that are actually containing most of the gold and the power and your unique super-human traits that you've been denying and striving to achieve.

And I'll give you a quick analogy to understand it. The soil. Is made up of everything that has died and decayed and rotted. And the more of that, the more fertile it is. And the soil is also the source and the substance of most of all life on earth. I mean, it's the basis of all life on earth. Obviously you need some other ingredients, you need water light, but without the soil, you don't get growth.

And so if the seed tried to grow the way we've learned through self-improvement. And in all kinds of achievement, it would try to get rid of all the dirt, all the gross, smelly, yucky, dirty stuff. And if it succeeded at that, you know, and stood triumphant on a rock I'm free at last, all the dirt is gone.

I'm clean. Finally, the sun would come out and shine. It's light and burn the seed to a crisp. So instead the seed berries itself and the dirt, and it turns it not into a tomb, but a womb. And when the sun shines now, it activates the life. That's already inherent in that darkness, in that dirt. And it nourishes the seed.

And then when the seed grows, how does it grow again, most of us in spirituality or consciousness or self-help, we all want to grow up, up, up, grow to the light, ascend off the planet, become ascended masters, you know, and that's not how growth happens. The seed grows down, down, down into the dark. And the deeper, the roots, the taller, the shoots and the richer, the fruits.

So this stage six is begins to train us and teach us that all the darkness within us, all these things, we've been feeling shame and guilt and pain around carrying with us and trying to get rid of is the soil. It's like the soil of our greatest potential. When you embrace these qualities, they reveal their gifts and their talents and their treasures.

And you start to activate all the stuff you've been struggling to achieve. And you realize I was never broken. There was never anything wrong with me. It was all just a misunderstanding. It was a misperception somewhere along the line, you know, I wanted what I wanted as a kid. And mommy said, Stop being so selfish.

Don't you see how busy mommy is? And it's so scared me and shamed me that I decided that wanting what I want is bad. Selfishness is bad. So I'm going to repress that and I'm going to create a counterbalancing characteristic of being mommy's little helper. I can do good or a caretaker, a giver, which by the way, develops that talent and the ability, which is wonderful, but it's to the exclusion of this whole other part of you that suffering.

And then you grow up to be a giver and a caretaker. You feel burned out, resentful, overwhelmed, pissed, off depressed, you become addicted and you wonder what the heck's going on and you try harder and harder and it just gets worse and worse. But the problem is you discarded a whole major part of yourself.

And when you embrace the selfish shadow, You actually activate a level of self care and self fulfillment and self love and respect that has been missing all along. And then what happens is because people treat you the way you train them based on how you treat yourself, because you're now taking better care of yourself, people in life reflect that back to you.

So this is just one example, but all of these parts of us that we've been rejecting and trying to get rid of and think are bad. And shameful are just, it's just gold. It's just a gold mine waiting to be excavated. And in this stage, I show you how to go in there and excavate this gold. So you can start to walk around and wake up feeling like you are enough.

You have enough, there's nothing wrong with you and you can get off the treadmill of thinking you're broken and now you have to fix yourself. Brilliant. Self-improvement is an oxymoron. You cannot improve the self. When you understand its real nature, you can only discover it, uncover it, come into alignment with it and allow more and more of it to emerge.

The final piece is step seven, wait on the law. And the basic idea here is that even when you do all this stuff, you're going to bump into what I call thresholds. And these are an evolutionary artifact of the ego is that it was originally designedto ensure our survival. So, if we were to change too quickly, it's just a set of programs.

If we were to change too quickly, we would actually, you know, move to the wrong place that we don't even understand and, and end up starving or freezing or running into the enemy. Or, you know, if we didn't have a sense of separation from things, we would go pet a saber tooth cat and get become it's lunch.

So it created a sense of separation and the sense of slow change so that we would evolve and survive. And actually the human experiment would work. But now that same mechanism that helped us to survive, puts us on the verge of extinction often. And in our own life prevents our evolution. So it happens as you do all these things.

I just said, That ego pattern is going to go, Oh my God, they're about to really change their they're about to become really different, which to the ego is equivalent to death, right? Because literally it's, the program is going to get erased or, you know, real change is like a virus to the system software.

So the ego starts throwing out its arsenal to try to keep you from changing. And it looks like, you know, Oh my God, I don't, I'm just too tired or this is too hard. Or I don't, I don't have enough support, time, money, whatever. And it comes up with all these very, you know, rational excuses. And, you know, when you rationalize is telling yourself rational lies, but it sounds and feels very real.

And that's what I call the threshold. And if you buy into it, It's like the plane and you're drawing the runway and you're starting to get the off speed. What starts to happen? The plane starts to shake and if you don't understand, aerodynamics thinks something's wrong and you'll slow down. And if you keep slowing down every time, you're about to get liftoff, you're going to just keep circling the runway.

And that's what most people do. They do all the right stuff up to that point. The cockpit starts shaking. They stuff starts coming up. All these things he's tried is tempt them to believe it's not working. It's too late. I'm not enough. I don't have enough. I don't know enough. My acorn shell is cracking.

Something's wrong. I need to just fix the shell and become just a good nut in the forest, you know, but there's something much bigger trying to emerge and. We slow down. We back away, we change courses. We follow another shiny object. And before we know it, we're back to where we started and we're circling the runway and we never get liftoff speed or escape, velocity or momentum.

And, and that's why the average person doesn't live 70 to 90 years. They lived the same year, 70 to 90 times. Right. So this stage, I help you to understand that phenomenon so that you can make real lasting, permanent change and then take your whole life to a new level permanently. Then you begin the cycle again, you know, as you go to the next level, the next level.

Jonathan Levi: Fantastic. Derek, I think we've gotten a really solid overview of the book and of the principles. If people want to obviously read the book, learn more about you, check out your podcasts, stuff like that. Where should we be sending them? 

Derek Rydall: Yeah, they can absolutely grab the book on Amazon and they can grab my podcast on iTunes emergence, and actually check this out because we do have a special thing going on right now, depending on when you're listening to this.

If you go to get emergence book.com that's G E T E M E R G E N C E.Book B O O k.com. All one word. Get emergence book.com. I'm giving the book away right now. All you have to do is pay just a small shipping and handling costs just to cover it. Doesn't even actually cover my costs, but it's to kind of help it a little bit, but I'm giving it away so you can go there and get your free copy.

Awesome. We appreciate that. Absolutely. And then again, go to emergence podcast and get over a hundred. You know, trainings around how to apply emergence to your  life.

Jonathan Levi: Amazing Derek, thank you so much for that. And we typically like to close on one specific question, which is if people take away one life lesson from this episode and they carry it with them for the rest of their lives, one, one life lesson, what would you hope for it to be out of all the things you shared with us today?

Derek Rydall: Absolutely. Oh, there was one other thing I'm going to say. If you want to get also some additional emergence training, you can just go to law of emergence.com as well. So yeah, you know, there's so much, but if there was one thing I had to share is that it's really true, that everything you could ever want hope for desire or need is already in you.

And it's also really true. That you have a destiny of greatness and you really do have super powers. Like you really, you are walking around with a gold mine, a treasure house, a level of power and abundance and genius that if, as Rumi said, if you could see who you really are, you would bow before yourself and worship the ground you walk on.

Wow. And I just invite you to. Just contemplate that journal about that and ask yourself every day for the next seven days. If this is true about me, that I have everything that I really am carrying brilliance and genius and power beyond my imagination. How would I hold myself today? How would I show up today?

How would I walk into work today? How would I walk into my family today? If I really had everything I could ever need, and I was this brilliant, this beautiful, this powerful. And you are, I'm not just giving you a sweet little affirmation. How would I begin to show up today? If you just practice that you're going to have some breakthroughs.

Jonathan Levi: I love it, Derek. Thank you so much for sharing your time and your wisdom with us today. I know our audience has definitely gotten a hefty dose of motivation and inspiration. So thank you so much.

Derek Rydall: Thank you, man. I so appreciate the work you're doing. I love your podcast and I love, I just so honor you for showing up. 

Jonathan Levi: Wow. Thank you so much. Thank you so much, Derek. So do keep in touch and let me know if there's any way I can help you do what you're doing. 

Derek Rydall: Likewise, my brother. Alrighty. 

Jonathan Levi: You take care. 

Derek Rydall: You too.

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